Who is Dylan Acosta?

Well, first and foremost, she’s the main protagonist in ‘The Seduction of Dylan Acosta’, the book that I’m offering free on Amazon.com until January 9th.

But second, she’s the character I am most conflicted about in anything I’ve ever written. I like to write about women who are flawed, yet strong. Women who make a fair amount of mistakes – as do we all – but who have a core that’s solid and admirable, even if you don’t admire everything they do.

Riley in ‘Commitment’ knew who she was, except in terms of her relationships with men. She understood her own view of the world and politics and was super-intellectual, but where men were concerned, she didn’t know herself very well. She had certain standards for a relationship that it turns out she herself was not meeting, though she didn’t admit it at first. But otherwise she was a woman you could admire, who was strong-willed enough to tame a strong man and bring him to his knees.

And Tracy in ‘Unsuitable Men’ was scarred by her past but managed to hold it together and present a face to the world that was very formidable and even intimidating. Even when she might lose the love of her life, she was aware that she could and would survive it. And Shayla in ‘Secret’ is in every way a survivor. She weathers great trauma and left all who were dear to her rather than accept their defining her as a victim.

But Dylan Acosta. Oh, Dylan. This character is the one that I related to least. She is a bundle of uncertainty and self-doubt, who refuses to accept that she is loved, and seems hell-bent on compromising and thwarting the love she gets from those around her. She self-sabotages constantly, and lights fuses in her own life and is surprised when the bomb goes off. I had a difficult relationship with her. She was like the friend you alternately want to save, and choke to death. The person in your life who so frustrates you that you very deliberately expose yourself to her only in small doses.

I felt about her the way you probably will when you read ‘The Seduction of Dylan Acosta’.  So feel free to let your frustration fly free in your reviews on Amazon . . . or on this page. And tell me: how do you feel reading about characters that you don’t relate to at all? Or if you related to Dylan, how so?


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6 thoughts on “Who is Dylan Acosta?

  1. Dylan was interesting. I could relate to her. I think she was sort of thrown into the deep end by Mark. I felt Mark should have taken more time to prepare her for the world she was entering. For instance when he tells her to decorate their home while he’s away. Who wouldn’t have thought to use one of the other wives as a guide to go by? You did great job leading us down the path of her seduction. . . of him, of the new lifestyle of the player’s wives. She was thoroughly seduced.

    1. I agree it was a pretty intimidating situation for a young woman to be faced with and she looked for guidance where she could find it, and he wasn’t around. The seductive aspects of wealth, fame etc. were the most interesting part of writing this book.

  2. I loved Riley. So open, so giving, so unpretentious. I also liked that even when everyone else was not so sure about her and Shawn, she listened to herself and went with what she wanted. She had the courage to take a chance on him. And even when she tamed Shawn, she did it in such a way that she didn’t tear him down. Even though her mother Lorna refused to take credit for how Riley turned out, I think she was such a refreshing and strong character herself that makes Riley’s character believable.

    I could relate to Dylan as far as being thrown into unfamilair territory and basically having no clue how to navigate, so its sink or swim. I noticed that she had no trouble assimilating to Mark’s family, as large and as loud as they were. But with the wives of her husband’s team mates, there was a lot of plastic-ness about them and that lifestyle that just intimated her and her insecurities intensified. She just wasn’t used to people like that or a life like that that was primarily about presentation and appearances. She was just used to genuine relationships like with her best friend and her boss even. So I agree with Nikki’s Book Chat that Mark could have oriented her a bit more to this new reality. But with her being so insecure about his love for her, I can see how he probably wouldn’t have been successful until some things happened to help her *get* it.

    Tracy was a hoot! i kept thinking she reminded me of Hillary from the Fresh Prince. Well off, a bit snooty, a bit vulnerable, and clueless (or perhaps uncaring) about her snootiness.

    Shayla was very brave and it was great to see her journey of self re-discovery.

    1. In a some ways Tracy is my favorite character – she provoked such conflicting feelings. You want to hug her and choke her at the same time. She was for me the most complicated as well – someone who wants to be loved but persists in doing things that make her unlovable. Riley was like so many of my friends and women I know that she felt familiar. Shayla as well, feels like someone I understand. I still read parts of The Seduction of Dylan Acosta to familiarize myself with Dylan, and she’s growing on me. It sounds strange, but I almost don’t remember some of the details of writing her – it was almost like I had to channel someone else in order to write her convincingly.

  3. I was admittedly irritated by some of Dylan’s actions. Not because she was insecure or so unsure of herself. Those are flaws I can live with…I think. But mostly because of how she allowed the “life” to take her off her path and to destroy those things about herself that Mark fell for in the first place. Not only that, she changed herself and didn’t seem to notice. Personally, I am alright with change. Even though I have a hard time with it, when I make up my mind to make a change, I can do it. But that’s just it. It’s deliberate and I’ve probably already thought about how it will affect me, my marriage and other relationships, work, etc. That was not the case with Dylan. She just morphed into who all the other baseball wives were without much introspection and even when Mark clearly was not happy with the changes, she still kept on morphing and not in a good way. So it was no surprise to me how she ended up in a situation where her relationship becomes compromised. What I admired her for though was her tenacity. Despite how bad things looked she didn’t give up on them and knew how much he needed from her to possibly get over this issue. In addition, it appears that she started to think more about who she really wanted to be and made deliberate moves to get herself back (Her old job, spending more time with his family and Ava, and hanging out less with the baseball crew). This I could admire about her.

    What I most admire about you Nia as a writer, is how no matter what personality, flaws, or issues your characters have, they still are likeable. I felt like Dylan was real and her reaction to her circumstances were realistic even though it’s not how I think I’d reacted. I’m still amazed at me liking Shawn and rooting for him and Riley despite his actions. And Tracy had a past and present that made me cringe. She, I wanted to shake when she brought Kelvin home. But I still liked her spoiled, haughty self and I wasn’t mad at Brendan for still wanting her in the end. There are not many authors that I’ve read that can make unlikeable and/or flawed characters likeable or understood. So BRAVO and I can’t wait read your next story.

    1. Thanks Aja. I’m with you on Shawn. It was important to me that he not emerge unscathed after his . . . indiscretion. I wanted to make sure he changed (and suffered!) as a result. And you’re right about Dylan; she definitely showed some growth so maybe I’m a little hard on her. And Tracy is actually my favorite. She was the most fun to write because of exactly what you’ve said – that you like her but dislike the things she does at the same time. I’m glad you’re getting that from my books, that conflict – making you love people who do unlovable things – is I think how life is. We all have that one person (or several people) who piss us off over and over again and we ask ourselves why we still care about them, but we just do. And sometimes the answer is in the little moments, the insignificant things: like Tracy’s making Brendan breakfast sandwiches and cooking for him, or Shawn wanting to read everything Riley ever wrote, or Trey noticing that Shayla liked books and taking her to the National Book Festival . . .

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