Imperfect Beginnings

I’m a sucker for a good love story. And I think most of us are. The difference may be that some of us like our love stories unvarnished and unadulterated, and others like it wrapped in painstaking detail about a different time, a different place, or with interesting background circumstances and a swirl of other goings-on.

I like love stories with unconventional beginnings, beginnings that are imperfect. I think that’s usually how real life love stories begin, especially today, and especially with modern, liberated women like ourselves. Sometimes our love stories begin with us sleeping with a man sooner than is advisable; or we fall for someone who is inaccessible because he’s married, or dating someone else, or lives on another continent, or is emotionally closed, or unwilling to change.  So in my stories, there is almost always a love story at the core, but what surrounds it is different.

Right now I’m experimenting with writing love stories where the conflict isn’t whether the man loves the woman, or loves her enough; it isn’t whether she loves him, or loves him in the way he needs to be loved. Rather, the conflict comes from almost entirely external forces.

Fame is one that I’m finding really intriguing right now. Over the summer, my friends and I have had frequent conversations about an interesting social phenomenon embodied in reality shows like ‘Basketball Wives’ or ‘Mob Wives’ and I think there was a ‘Football Wives’ and ‘Hip-Hop Wives’ show at one point. So I began to wonder what it must be like to be defined almost solely by who you’re married to; and not even who specifically, but in terms of what he does for a living, and whether its something high-profile.

From everything I’ve seen of these shows, I was horrified by how constrained and how small the worlds of these women are. They are locked in these prisons of their husbands’ or partners’ public identity and as a result make a tempest in the tiny teapots that are their lives. And that got me wondering: what would it be like for a woman who had her own strong and defined identity to enter that world? What challenges would she face adjusting to becoming just the “wife” of a famous person, and less so, her own person? And more than that, how might it be for a man who has seen other wives fit into that small world come to realize that his wife will not, and cannot do so? How might he react?

I imagined he would be threatened by it, but aroused by it and maybe even proud of her for it. I imagined that he might be conflicted because if her independence was what made her attractive to him, he also wouldn’t want to squelch that spirit, even if it befuddled him and frustrated him and made him crazy with jealousy.

And from that thought process, my novel, ‘Commitment’ was born.

I wanted to explore how a couple like the kind I’ve just described would navigate this new territory for them both, and I wanted to watch their relationship organically unfold as I wrote. So for that reason, I wrote ‘Commitment’ without an outline and let the characters themselves determine where they would go. So what they say, and what they do in the book was not predetermined by me, it was a function of what that ‘person’ would do in that given situation. (As any novelist will tell you, what most people would call their ‘characters’ become very real . . . they are people, just as certainly as you or I.)

So anyway, that’s a little of my thought process that I thought I would share.

I’ll close with my opening theme: imperfect beginnings. As an overlay to the theme of fame and relationships, I also worked in the notion that a great love story can begin imperfectly. The main characters in ‘Commitment’ sleep together the very night they meet (and there are other circumstances that make that a particularly bad idea, but I won’t ruin it for you). I think most of us would agree that that generally doesn’t lay the foundation for a durable and profound connection. But I believe that despite that beginning, such a connection could develop, and so I wanted to explore how that might happen.

Read ‘Commitment’ and tell me what you thought  . . .

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7 thoughts on “Imperfect Beginnings

  1. Wow, I just read this book I finished yesterday, which made me look up your page and I was reading your blog, whats crazy I just got finished reading that famous “Trilogy” about a week ago, and I definitely understood your synopsis on it. I also read how you don’t believe in reliving characters so I guess that means there would not be a sequel to this story which made me a little sad. You really developed the characters in this story I didn’t realize how long it was seeing as I read it on my Kindle and read it in 2 days. I can see this as a movie actually because you painted such a vivid picture with this story. I think you touched alot of bases of entertainment couples, I saw so many different couples in this story as the journey between Riley and Shawn unfolded it brought me in I felt their pain, their love and thats a really big deal when you can feel fictional character’s love for each other. You are very talented Nia and I look forward to reading next the seduction of Dylan Acosta.

    1. Thank you so much for those kind words! I loved writing this story and didn’t want to let them go. I think that’s why it was so long. I think I’ll let Shawn and Riley go, but maybe Brendan and Tracy? Hmmm.

      1. You are right hmmmm, I liked how you set up their back story, and I can definitely see their story evolving to something else as well. Tracey wasn’t fooling anyone , she know she was feeling Brendan lol. Well as long as Riley and Shawn can visit.

  2. Nia, I so enjoyed reading “Commitment”. The story line was amazing and the characters had real depth. There were moments when I had to remind myself they weren’t real people, as you told their story so personally. Your writing is so refreshingly different than many other African American fiction authors I’ve read to date and like others have commented, I could easily see Riley and Shawn’s story as a screenplay. It was just that good! Please continue to share your wonderful writing…I’m a huge fan now. As a note, I also downloaded the free sample of “The Seduction of Dylan…” that was briefly available for Kindle. Really enjoyed as well and am anxiously waiting the Sept 15th release.

    1. Thank you so much! I am working hard on ‘The Seduction of Dylan Acosta’ and another book and it’s neck and neck at this point so I’m not sure which I will release first, but certainly something by Sept. 15. Thank you also for your kind review on Amazon and please do share the book with friends!

  3. Nia, I wanted to let you know I picked up Commitment about 3 days ago and was so blown away by you and the way you tell a story I finished it within a day. I then went on to Unsuitable Men, Maybe Never, then Dylan Acosta. I read all of them within 3 days. I was sad when they were over. I loved them all (Shawn, Riley, Tracy, Brendan, Mark and Dylan). I have Secrets on my Kindle and I am saving it since I finished the other books so fast. I am telling all my friends and family about you. You are an amazing author and storyteller. Please keep the stories coming. I will be reading everything you write from now on. I am so glad I discovered you!

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